In today's Asking Eric column, R. Eric Thomas responds to a dispute between siblings about whether or not to place their mother in a nursing home.

Since your mother has expressed that she wants to go into assisted living, the best thing you can do is take action. Start researching facilities that you feel comfortable with, and tell your sister that the decision ultimately lies with your mother. Send your questions for Annie Lane to dearannie@creators.com.

All but one of us siblings agree that Mom needs to be in assisted living with nursing care. The holdout insisted on looking after Mom herself. Now, however, she realizes that it has become burdensome,